I don’t know what was going on last week, maybe mercury was in retrograde, but folks were being really nasty on the internet. There was an industry copyright incident, a mom was getting brutally criticized for being fit and an author was driven to speak out against those that send her hate mail. All in all it was not a good week for the online community that I’ve grown to love.
All of this hate spewing I find incredibly disheartening. Why is it that folks are so quick to pick up the pitch forks to verbally execute another person? Is it just human nature to pass judgement? Perhaps it’s the remanence of an old survival instinct. I could see how back Paleolithic Era it might have been important to be able to make quick decisions about a situation. And even how your survival could possible depend on it. But in this day and age, making a snap judgement doesn’t helps anyone. In fact I think it’s quite detrimental to all involved.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t speak out about injustices or have a strong opinion. What I am saying is that you should take some time to discern the situation before you pass judgement. Don’t be one of those people that just jumps on the bandwagon ‘cause they don’t want to miss out on that shot of adrenaline you get from being mean.
Now, I’m not so naive as to say that I’ve never passed judgement on someone myself. It’s something we’ve all done and most of the time we’ve done it without even realizing we have. It’s so easy to quickly discredit and dismiss someone. But let’s be real here. It’s never as black and white as we think it is and you’ll never truly know what motivates others, as you are not them.
And please let’s not forget how it feels to be judged. It totally sucks! And it’s never ok to be mean! This is something that I teach my daughter. And I think it’s something we all know to be true. You don’t have to like everyone you work with or meet but you should at least give them the human courtesy of being civil. And remember that your reaction almost always has more to do with you then it does with the person you’re judging.
I think it’s about time we start giving some more conscious attention to our thoughts and actions. So I leave you with this:
Stop, Slow Down, Get Perspective and then Decide.