rock the boat

Oh my gosh it was a beautiful day today in the Bay Area, some might have even say a bit too hot. While I was walking along the Embarcadero to meet some old coworkers for lunch I was think about this book that I recently picked up and started reading called On Becoming Fearless by Arianna Huffington (Jay happened to have a signed copy laying around the house that he picked up at a recent conference he attended).

In Arianna’s introduction she talks about the limits that fear places on us especially when we sacrifice our personal truths and “go along with” and conforms with the masses, whether it’s because we are seeking approval or because we are just trying to be “nice”. I think we’ve all done this at one time or another and today I was reminded that sometimes you HAVE TO rock the BOAT! Make your own waves to ride and use your inner compass to guide you. I say this, but also know how hard it is to do. I’m one of those people that doesn’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings and I’m not great at confrontation. To be quite honest, it actually make my stomach churn at nauseating speeds. But, I also know that the only person’s happiness you can truly alter is your own. And as much as I may dislike the experience, sometimes confrontation and criticism are necessary to break-thru to the other side.

I am in no way perfect at this and sometimes I say the wrong things and take criticism way too personally, but I am getting better at it. Standing tall while the boat is rocking isn’t easy, but sitting on the docks definitely isn’t an option. I’m working on balancing my fears the best I can.

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